Nice and easy read, many obvious but important points are made in this book. Obvious because they are simple and feels like you have always known and understood everything that is written, important because you have never paid enough attention to it.
I am not into self helping books at all, but this one is different ( no “you can do everything” crap) and gives good food for thoughts.
Эта книга - обобщение вещей, которые вы уже давно где-то слышали.
Про то, что в самых сложных жизненных обстоятельствах вы сами решаете - ломаться или выживать ради выбранных ценностей писал Франкл в своей автобиографии про время в концлагере. Про то, что только потеряв все мы обретаем себя, говорил Паланик в Бойцовском Клубе. Про то что смысл истинной свободы - в ограничении также уже кто-то говорил.
А до них ещё кто-то. И ещё кто-то. И кто-то ещё до них всех выражал похожие мысли наскальной живописью. Всю, в общем, гребаную историю человечества.
По сути, Мэнсон не привнес в тему ничего нового. Просто сделал добротный реферат, снабдил его наглядными и яркими примерами и рассказал его в беспардонной, но искренней манере. Будто вам снова 17, три часа ночи, вы на чьей-то кухне курите и допиваете остатки бухла со случайным знакомым и он, не выбирая выражения, сочно и аргументированно передает вам свой жизненный опыт.
В целом, всю книгу можно пересказать одним бородатым анекдотом про то как по городу идёт мужик с табличкой "Мне все похер!". К нему подходит прохожий и спрашивает правда все ли ему похер. Правда! И власть? Похер! Деньги? Похер! И женщины? Нет, женщины мне не похер. Так у вас же на табличке написано, что вам все похер. А мне похер, что там написано, задорно подмигнув, отвечает мужик.
Этого мужика звали Альберт Эйншт... Марк Мэнсон.
Очень легко и просто — о серьезных вещах.
В начале книги практический невозможно предугадать, куда зайдёт повествование: автор быстро и ненавязчиво меняет темы; стартовав с простого и банального "не заморачивайся о пустяках" и закончив "живи полной жизнью и всегда помни, что в конце пути тебя ожидает смерть".
The book is simple and deep at the same time. They say only people who profoundly understand the field they are working on can explain complicated things using basic and children-speaking language. The way everyone can catch the idea and scrutinize it lately. Mark, you are something. The society tells you to be afraid of not giving a fuck, teaches you from the very beginning to take care and constantly push yourself trying to live up to somebody’s expectations. You start the book with words “don’t try”. That’s it. The knowledge you have is fake. You are wrong about everything. Okay, sometimes you get less wrong, but you are still wrong anyway. If you feel like being good is your major metric, you are already a failure. Marc gives a giant advice to check your current values you rely on. Check the relationships you have with people. Your role in them. Are you toxic or you let toxic head be with you and effect your sustainability. Marc call you to think different, to look from another angle. Maybe you give a shit about things that will no longer bother you just in some days, or seconds. Even some years is nothing. Go big, keep in mind giant metrics that will define your level of happiness and freedom. Don’t try to be unique or special. Firstly, you are already unique. Secondly, we are all the same. The same low self-esteem, the same struggle to not fail, the same complexes and second thoughts. The whole picture can be changed if only you change the way you estimate yourself, the way you constantly, permanently estimate your self. Stop doing it. Don’t try. Don’t try to be a famous writer, a great accouter, book-keeper or entrepreneur. Go for you big goal step by step and don’t try. In the end we all die, so why to be afraid to live? Let’s live and let’s give a fuck to things that matter. Family. Kids. Health. Sex. Fun. Let’s think more frequently about death and not be afraid of dyeing. Because it’s the most significant metric. What will you leave after your funeral? Happy, well-educated and with calm mind or codependent kid that used to put the responsibility for their faults on other’s shoulders? I highly recommend you read this book twice. Because I will. The amount of notes I made is enormous.
It felt like I had a talk, very private and intimate, with my buddy. Wise buddy who can read you emotional level and know all about your problems (usually stupid ones).
Great, buddy. Thank you.
10 our of 10.
One of the best books I've ever read.
Kişisel gelişim kitaplarının tam olarak hayranı olmasam da bu kitabı büyük keyifle okudum. Bir kere dili çok sade, enerjik ve aşırı eğlenceli. Bardağa bir de diğer tarafından bakmanızı sağladığını söylemem şart, zaten okumaya başlar başlamaz sizi de kendine bağlar, cok söze gerek yok.
The book’s subtitle is ‘A counterintuitive approach to living a good life’. This is what the book is about or atleast a part of it. The message is same or similar as other self-help books, but conveyed through reverse psychology. It does not stop you from giving a fuck, but just deciding what fucks you want to give. That is the one integral message written across the pages.
The last chapter is my favourite chapter though. The way Mark has described his visit to Cape of Good Hope is a pleasure to read. I felt as if it was me taking those steps towards the cliff and sit on that cliff. The message was same. There is a difference between being alive and living life; and the choice is ours to make.
A good read, if nothing else then just the last chapter.
If you're already a bit weird and do your own thing, this book is a waste of time. Maybe this is an okay read for people who feel like they have to operate within conventional societal rules. Anyway, not very thought provoking or informative.
It's not bad, but not the best book ever. There are some things I can't totally agree with. But, I think, it's a book for people who takes everything to heart
I’d recommend everyone to read this book. It opens your eyes on things you might have already known but ignored or things you haven’t even thought about but they make so much sense to you. Written in an easy way for everyone to understand and enjoy. Amazing!
I was very much sceptical about the book at first (with all that hype about this book in particular and similar books in general), but then I gave it a try. It is well written and quite illuminating at times. The author has a very good sense of humour. I found him expressing some thoughts I have in mind but have never expressed them that way myself. sometimes I found new ideas that didn't even cross my mind.
The book has its point. However, it cannot change anything in one’s life unless properly orchestrated. The author has a propensity to overestimate the meaning of a death itself and over-invests into idea of structured approach in decision making. Clearly not every person has a grit and inborn ability to persevere in the attempt of leading a structured value-based life. Nevertheless, the book has its charm. I would recommend to take it slow on chill holiday evenings.
Sassy and easy to ready... enjoy every valuable perspective
It seems like there are some ideas that are not such a big deal that are not life-changing but believe it or not at the end of the book and after accepting within yourself the power of those same ideas... your vision changes... your feellings change and finally your life change forever.
Thanks Mark Manson.
Настолько хороша, так много умных мыслей и insights, что прочитал два раза подряд для лучшего уяснения мыслей. Пожалуй, лучшая книга прочитанная мной за последние года.
I’m glad I read it.. I’ll most likely read it again!
To read this book is an interesting experience. At first I thought it's just another American chewing gum book, where one thought is repeated thousand times, but in middle of reading I changed my mind. Mostly because there were real author feelings, which are quite into my own thoughts. So now I advised to read it to couple of my close friends, we are who we are surrounded of.