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Mark Manson

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k

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#1 New York Times Bestseller
Over 1 million copies sold
In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be “positive” all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. «F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. «Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.” Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
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  • romaseetshared an impression6 years ago

    Nice and easy read, many obvious but important points are made in this book. Obvious because they are simple and feels like you have always known and understood everything that is written, important because you have never paid enough attention to it.
    I am not into self helping books at all, but this one is different ( no “you can do everything” crap) and gives good food for thoughts.


  • iamKovyshared an impression7 years ago
    👍Worth reading

    Эта книга - обобщение вещей, которые вы уже давно где-то слышали.

    Про то, что в самых сложных жизненных обстоятельствах вы сами решаете - ломаться или выживать ради выбранных ценностей писал Франкл в своей автобиографии про время в концлагере. Про то, что только потеряв все мы обретаем себя, говорил Паланик в Бойцовском Клубе. Про то что смысл истинной свободы - в ограничении также уже кто-то говорил.

    А до них ещё кто-то. И ещё кто-то. И кто-то ещё до них всех выражал похожие мысли наскальной живописью. Всю, в общем, гребаную историю человечества.

    По сути, Мэнсон не привнес в тему ничего нового. Просто сделал добротный реферат, снабдил его наглядными и яркими примерами и рассказал его в беспардонной, но искренней манере. Будто вам снова 17, три часа ночи, вы на чьей-то кухне курите и допиваете остатки бухла со случайным знакомым и он, не выбирая выражения, сочно и аргументированно передает вам свой жизненный опыт.

    В целом, всю книгу можно пересказать одним бородатым анекдотом про то как по городу идёт мужик с табличкой "Мне все похер!". К нему подходит прохожий и спрашивает правда все ли ему похер. Правда! И власть? Похер! Деньги? Похер! И женщины? Нет, женщины мне не похер. Так у вас же на табличке написано, что вам все похер. А мне похер, что там написано, задорно подмигнув, отвечает мужик.

    Этого мужика звали Альберт Эйншт... Марк Мэнсон.

  • Nika Chernovashared an impression6 years ago
    👍Worth reading
    🔮Hidden Depths

    The book is simple and deep at the same time. They say only people who profoundly understand the field they are working on can explain complicated things using basic and children-speaking language. The way everyone can catch the idea and scrutinize it lately. Mark, you are something. The society tells you to be afraid of not giving a fuck, teaches you from the very beginning to take care and constantly push yourself trying to live up to somebody’s expectations. You start the book with words “don’t try”. That’s it. The knowledge you have is fake. You are wrong about everything. Okay, sometimes you get less wrong, but you are still wrong anyway. If you feel like being good is your major metric, you are already a failure. Marc gives a giant advice to check your current values you rely on. Check the relationships you have with people. Your role in them. Are you toxic or you let toxic head be with you and effect your sustainability. Marc call you to think different, to look from another angle. Maybe you give a shit about things that will no longer bother you just in some days, or seconds. Even some years is nothing. Go big, keep in mind giant metrics that will define your level of happiness and freedom. Don’t try to be unique or special. Firstly, you are already unique. Secondly, we are all the same. The same low self-esteem, the same struggle to not fail, the same complexes and second thoughts. The whole picture can be changed if only you change the way you estimate yourself, the way you constantly, permanently estimate your self. Stop doing it. Don’t try. Don’t try to be a famous writer, a great accouter, book-keeper or entrepreneur. Go for you big goal step by step and don’t try. In the end we all die, so why to be afraid to live? Let’s live and let’s give a fuck to things that matter. Family. Kids. Health. Sex. Fun. Let’s think more frequently about death and not be afraid of dyeing. Because it’s the most significant metric. What will you leave after your funeral? Happy, well-educated and with calm mind or codependent kid that used to put the responsibility for their faults on other’s shoulders? I highly recommend you read this book twice. Because I will. The amount of notes I made is enormous.

    It felt like I had a talk, very private and intimate, with my buddy. Wise buddy who can read you emotional level and know all about your problems (usually stupid ones).
    Great, buddy. Thank you.

    10 our of 10.


  • Vita Solominahas quoted6 years ago
    The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.
  • Alexander Revinskyhas quoted5 years ago
    There’s a saying in Texas: “The smallest dog barks the loudest.”
  • Дмитрий Веснинhas quoted7 years ago
    You get anxious about confronting somebody in your life. That anxiety cripples you and you start wondering why you’re so anxious. Now you’re becoming anxious about being anxious. Oh no! Doubly anxious! Now you’re anxious about your anxiety, which is causing more anxiety. Quick, where’s the whiskey?

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