Master Your Emotions

Anger is beneficial to relationships
As the saying goes - the heart grows fonder with time and distance (or something like that), there is also a saying that goes something like this - arguments and fights grow people closer together. This saying (unlike the other one in my opinion), is very true in the sense that when you argue with your significant other, you are teaching and learning each others’ boundaries. When you keep your frustrations and anger inside, all you are doing is letting your partner know that what they are doing is okay and so they continue to do whatever it is that makes you angry. This can be very detrimental to any relationship. So, if you use your anger to solve problems other than vent and rage, then a strong and close relationship is what you will have

Everywhere, we see self-help books that are titled “how to get what you want through a positive attitude” or “Learn positive behaviors and say goodbye to anger and sadness forever.” What these self-help books are trying to do is brainwash your mind into thinking that the only way to grow personally and become better is to act upon positive emotions and be positive. This is false because as a person, we need to feel our negative emotions

Self-happiness refers to being completely satisfied with oneself and is generally associated with self-confidence and high self-esteem.

Happiness, although not permanent, is a more stable state and lasts longer than pleasure does.

When you accept the good with the bad, you will feel less stressed and more in control of yourself and with your life.

People who develop or improve self-motivation skills gain motivation internally rather than externally. What this means is that if you possess high emotional intelligence in terms of motivation, you are more likely to feel inspired by doing what you love and overcoming your fears if they stand in the way of your aspirations and beliefs. External motivation means that people are only driven if they are doing something for wealth, respect, or fame - i.e. external reasons - rather than personal growth or achievement.

It is okay to completely lose control, and it is also okay to be in complete control.

Having social skills along with emotional intelligence means that you can successfully carry on a deep relationship or otherwise respectful one with people around you.

look at an emotion, define it, figure out why it’s necessary, why it’s hard to control and even when to just sit with an emotion. The ability to control and cope with your emotions is a powerful skill to achieve and actually promotes success and happiness.
Emotional intelligence has changed many lives for the better because it allows you to develop five key skills needed to be aware of yourself and others. These characteristics are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. The characteristics of emotional intelligence will be defined and explained in much more detail in the first chapter. It’s hard to understand and learn about our emotions when we don’t understand emotional intelligence. As you read through this book make sure to keep in mind that every emotion and every skill you want to work on takes practice and patience to overcome or sit with. Without emotional intelligence, we wouldn’t be able to cope with or even understand our emotions. These emotions could spiral out of control and just take over - that’s a world in which we would all be a bunch of rageaholics or depressed zombies.
Think of a time when you became surprised by something which then made you really happy or extremely sad. The emotions that you experienced may have made you annoy others or do things that you regret. With that regret, you could have spiraled to make more poor decisions which may have then made you angry. Then you took that anger, tried to control it but because your EQ is unbalanced you entered a situation where you felt you had to defend yourself, then your fear took over. You broke down into a panic attack

changed many lives for the better