Seeing Gender

it’s important to allow people the space to mess up while they grow, and to simultaneously hold one another accountable when we’re screwing up. Accountability is often uncomfortable, but so is change

When you move, like it or not, you take you with you—at least that feels good

Realizing I don’t need to be any gender other than whatever the hell I am. I don’t need to be trans, non-binary, or any title at all. I’ll stick with being a rectangle she-boy who loves Harry Styles and stripes. It really doesn’t (and shouldn’t) matter to me or anyone else that I am some amorphous being. Because it’s all made up by us humans to begin with

Sadness is okay, and sadness doesn’t indicate it’s a wrong choice

having a certain identity doesn’t necessarily mean you must remain in that identity forever, or that you must adhere to all the unwritten rules that define that label. At the end of the day, we are unique and impossible to categorize

It felt so empowering, cool, sexy, and feminine to shave all my hair off

Survival sex’ is a term used by many nonprofit organizations and researchers to describe trading of sex for survival needs.”

Race, class, gender, religion, language, age, ability, and sexual orientation are some identity markers that can grant or deny privilege

If you don’t see something as a problem, you probably aren’t experiencing it because you have certain privilege

We can’t get rid of our unearned privilege, but we can act in a way that’s less harmful to those who don’t have the same privileges and use our privilege to demand equitable treatment for those around us