Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks Fast (Anxiety Relief)

These are the waves of nervous energy. When you resist the wave, it tosses you around and scares you, but when you move with it, you ride up and over it and eventually lose your fear of the waves.
The waves of anxiety rise up, peak, and then fall back down. They always peak and then subside away. Up and down they go. They become a problem (a disorder) only if you respond to them in the wrong way

When done with real intention, you really flow with your nervous energy rather than rubbing with friction against it. You’re declaring a truce between you and that which you’ve been fighting for so long. This is a really important moment and a turning point in your recovery.
“Attend and befriend your fear” as Tara Brach would say. Before, you resisted each and every sensation because your anxious mind thought that was the right thing to do, but now you’re learning to sit with it in friendly curiosity, allowing it to be as it is without any desire to stop or control it.

As you move with your nervous arousal, it may morph into different thoughts or sensations. As it does this, think to yourself: That’s interesting that you’re now giving me this new sensation. Oh well … whatever, you’re allowed.
I accept and allow this anxious feeling. I accept and allow this anxious feeling.

Pretend you’re actually glad to see it again. You’re inviting it in so it can spend time with you.
Oh, look who’s come to visit! Take a seat. I’m glad you showed up!”
Your anxiety won’t escalate if you welcome it like this because you’re moving with it without resistance or suppression. It will now naturally start to discharge

When you resist anxiety, you move against it, creating a further buildup of internal tension, making it unable to discharge. Don’t turn away from anxiety; that never works. Turn into it, allow it, and move with it. When done correctly, this has a great healing effect on your nervous system, allowing it to desensitize from the anxious state you’ve been keeping it stuck in

Just like an athlete who embraces discomfort in order to achieve their end goal, you’re embracing anxiety in order to get where you need to be. Before I give you some examples of how to allow anxiety to be present, it’s important to be aware that none of this is about giving in to your fears or anxiety. It’s about having a new, almost detached relationship with it,

In essence, you must learn to get comfortable in your anxious discomfort.
Most of the things in life that we have to come to accept are not pleasant; they just are what they are. It’s the same with nervous energy

But the fact is you have to accept and embrace your anxiety in order for it to leave.
Here’s an example of how to allow the anxiety you feel. Say to yourself:
I’m no longer going to battle with you, anxiety. I call a truce. Come closer to me now, and sit down beside me. It’s okay. I’m allowing you to stay. I accept and allow this anxious feeling

The secret to recovery, however, is that once you reach a point where you really allow and accept it, it begins to fall away and discharge naturally. It’s the paradox that is central to healing anxiety.
So from now on, I want you to stop asking yourself:
Will I feel okay today?
Instead, ask yourself:
What level of anxious discomfort am I willing to embrace today in order to heal

Allow it to be present, and then come to accept it for what it is—nervous arousal and nothing more. This wave of nervous arousal is happening. You may never find out why it’s manifesting, but for right now that’s not important. What is important is how you respond to it.
What we resist persists, and what we accept, we can transform. When we fully accept our anxiety by allowing it to be, without begrudging it, it then goes through a subtle transformation. As Lama Govinda said, “We are transformed by what we accept.”