Forgive for Love

The first element

When we have less resentment and are able to stop feeling like a victim, it is easier to see the good in our lives.

Much of your suffering comes from having wanted your partner to do something different from what he or she actually did.

normal grief cycle for major losses is between six months and two years. Sometimes just deciding to forgive can be all we need.

What Is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is for you and not for your partner.
Forgiveness is taking back your power from being wounded.
Forgiveness is taking responsibility for how you feel now.
Forgiveness is about your healing and not about your partner’s action.
Forgiveness is a trainable skill, just like learning to throw a baseball.
Forgiveness helps you get control over your feelings today.
Forgiveness can improve your mental and physical health.
Forgiveness is becoming a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell about what happened.
Forgiveness is a choice you make.
Everyone can learn to forgive.
Forgiveness is about today and not

yesterday.
Forgiveness is making peace when you did not get what you wanted.
Forgiveness is acknowledging the hurt.

the ability to be accepting when your spouse fails to give you what you want or imposes on you something you don’t want

planning the future rather than lamenting the past.

to “leave your past behind you.”

approximately 70 percent of the issues that couples disagree about at the beginning of their relationship do not change over time.