The Truth about Cheating

Too often, people have been made to believe that no one can change, a wonderfully rationalizing thought that seems to forgive our unwillingness to challenge ourselves. You can change. Any part of yourself that you don’t like or that is not working for you is in your power to change. To believe differently is to question the very basis of being human. We are different from the rest of the animal world because of our ability to think and feel on a level that allows us to change and adapt.

The point is, I’m pretty sure you were not talking incessantly about the stress of money, kids, and business when you were dating, because if you were, you never would’ve gotten married. That kind of conversation didn’t make you fall in love. I don’t know why you think it’s going to sustain your love.

’s quite fascinating that if I were to ask you what it takes to be a great parent or a great career woman, you’d immediately tell me things like “hard work, tremendous effort, intense focus.” But if I asked you what it would take for you to be a great wife, you’d likely scratch your head a bit and wonder out loud, “Well, we went on vacation sometime in the last millennium. We had lunch out recently . . . oh wait, that wasn’t lunch, it was a funeral.” It seems that all of us want to ignore in our marriage the primary principles for success for every other part of our lives and somehow expect a glorious outcome. Don’t bet on it. In order for you to cultivate intimacy and appreciation into the relationship, it’ll likely take more focus and time together

Men have to be as tough as nails and constantly able to put aside their feelings. That’s what wins wars, builds companies, and makes the manly world go ’round.

Our friends are far more influential than we probably believe. When you have close friends who cheat, it creates an atmosphere that makes cheating a part of everyday living. So why allow cheating to be a part of your social circle? Why create a culture of infidelity by hanging out with others who cheat?

The best place to put your energy? You might have guessed it by now. My research showed that the number one way the other woman differed from the cheating man’s wife was that she made him feel wanted, loved, and appreciated—28 percent.

Everyone knows lying is wrong, yet it seems almost everyone does it in some fashion. The lie “I’ll call you” is so popular today that I think some have confused it as a substitute for “good-bye.” Lying diminishes trust and distorts reality.

Just because men seem like they’re strong and powerful doesn’t mean they don’t regularly question themselves or worry about their skills and abilities.

point is only that men tend to get less appreciation because they’re expected to do more than ever before.

Emotional disconnection? Appreciation? Doesn’t that sound like a woman is talking? The big lie we keep hearing over and over again is women are the emotional ones, whereas men are like rocks, doing their thing, needing only lots of sex to be happy. Stop believing these myths or else the odds of your husband cheating will dramatically rise