Quotes from “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen Covey

akudaibe01332
akudaibe01332has quoted2 years ago
There are actually three social maps—three theories of determinism widely accepted, independently or in combination, to explain the nature of man. Genetic determinism basically says your grandparents did it to you. That’s why you have such a temper. Your grandparents had short tempers and it’s in your DNA. It just goes through the generations and you inherited it. In addition, you’re Irish, and that’s the nature of Irish people.
Psychic determinism basically says your parents did it to you. Your upbringing, your childhood experience essentially laid out your personal tendencies and your character structure. That’s why you’re afraid to be in front of a group. It’s the way your parents brought you up. You feel terribly guilty if you make a mistake because you “remember” deep inside the emotional scripting when you were very vulnerable and tender and dependent. You “remember” the emotional punishment, the rejection, the comparison with somebody else when you didn’t perform as well as expected.
Environmental determinism basically says your boss is doing it to you—or your spouse, or that bratty teenager, or your economic situation, or national policies. Someone or something in your environment is responsible for your situation.
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b7408115530has quotedlast year
of the desire and ability to sacrifice what we want now for what we want eventually.
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted11 days ago
APPLICATION SUGGESTIONS
1. Take the time to record the impressions you had in the funeral visualization at the beginning of this chapter.

2. Take a few moments and write down your roles as you now see them. Are you satisfied with that mirror image of your life?

3. Set up time to completely separate yourself from daily activities and to begin work on your personal mission statement.

4. Go through the chart in Appendix A showing different centers and circle all those you can identify with. Do they form a pattern for the behavior in your life? Are you comfortable with the implications of your analysis?

5. Start a collection of notes, quotes, and ideas you may want to use as resource material in writing your personal mission statement.

6. Identify a project you will be facing in the near future and apply the principle of mental creation. Write down the results you desire and what steps will lead to those results.

7. Share the principles of Habit 2 with your family or work group and suggest that together you begin the process of developing a family or group mission statement.
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted11 days ago
APPLICATION SUGGESTIONS:
1. Identify a Quadrant II activity you know has been neglected in your life—one that, if done well, would have a significant impact in your life, either personally or professionally. Write it down and commit to implement it.

2. Draw a time management matrix and try to estimate what percentage of your time you spend in each quadrant. Then log your time for three days in fifteen-minute intervals. How accurate was your estimate? Are you satisfied with the way you spend your time? What do you need to change?

3. Make a list of responsibilities you could delegate and the people you could delegate to or train to be responsible in these areas. Determine what is needed to start the process of delegation or training.

4. Organize your next week. Start by writing down your roles and goals for the week, then transfer the goals to a specific action plan. At the end of the week, evaluate how well your plan translated your deep values and purposes into your daily life and the degree of integrity you were able to maintain to those values and purposes.

5. Commit yourself to start organizing on a weekly basis and set up a regular time to do it.

6. Either convert your current planning tool into a fourth generation tool or secure such a tool.

7. Go through “A Quadrant II Day at the Office” (Appendix B) for a more in-depth understanding of the impact of a Quadrant II paradigm.
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted11 days ago
Keep in mind that you are always saying “no” to something. If it isn’t to the apparent, urgent things in your life, it is probably to the more fundamental, highly important things. Even when the urgent is good, the good can keep you from your best, keep you from your unique contribution, if you let it.
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted11 days ago
What one thing could you do in your personal and professional life that, if you did it on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your life? Quadrant II activities have that kind of impact.
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted13 days ago
An organizational mission statement—one that truly reflects the deep shared vision and values of everyone within that organization—creates a great unity and tremendous commitment. It creates in people’s hearts and minds a frame of reference, a set of criteria or guidelines, by which they will govern themselves. They don’t need someone else directing, controlling, criticizing, or taking cheap shots. They have bought into the changeless core of what the organization is about.
Khrystyna Kenio
Khrystyna Keniohas quoted16 days ago
dependence is the paradigm of you—you take care of me; you come through for me; you didn’t come through; I blame you for the results.
Independence is the paradigm of I—I can do it; I am responsible; I am self-reliant; I can choose.
Interdependence is the paradigm of we—we can do it; we can cooperate; we can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together.
K Limoni25
K Limoni25has quoted16 days ago
Because we saw him as fundamentally adequate and able to cope with life, we stopped protecting him against the ridicule of others.

Character Ethics VS Personality Ethics

Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted16 days ago
Roles and goals give structure and organized direction to your personal mission. If you don’t yet have a personal mission statement, it’s a good place to begin. Just identifying the various areas of your life and the two or three important results you feel you should accomplish in each area to move ahead gives you an overall perspective of your life and a sense of direction.
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted16 days ago
The only real limitation of power is the natural consequences of the principles themselves. We are free to choose our actions, based on our knowledge of correct principles, but we are not free to choose the consequences of those actions. Remember, “If you pick up one end of the stick, you pick up the other.”
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted16 days ago
Essentially, the left hemisphere is the more logical/verbal one and the right hemisphere the more intuitive, creative one. The left deals with words, the right with pictures; the left with parts and specifics, the right with wholes and the relationship between the parts. The left deals with analysis, which means to break apart; the right with synthesis, which means to put together. The left deals with sequential thinking; the right with simultaneous and holistic thinking. The left is time bound; the right is time free.
Khrystyna Kenio
Khrystyna Keniohas quoted17 days ago
More energy was spent in the first few minutes of lift-off, in the first few miles of travel, than was used over the next several days to travel half a million miles.
Khrystyna Kenio
Khrystyna Keniohas quoted17 days ago
The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”
Khrystyna Kenio
Khrystyna Keniohas quoted17 days ago
Could there be something I need to see in a deeper, more fundamental way—some paradigm within myself that affects the way I see my time, my life, and my own nature?
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted17 days ago
Frankl says we detect rather than invent our missions in life. I like that choice of words. I think each of us has an internal monitor or sense, a conscience, that gives us an awareness of our own uniqueness and the singular contributions that we can make. In Frankl’s words, “Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life…. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is as unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it.”
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted18 days ago
In a negative sense, psychologically they are still married—they each need the weaknesses of the former partner to justify their accusations.
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted18 days ago
The work will come again, but childhood won’t
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted18 days ago
Economic security is basic to one’s opportunity to do much in any other dimension. In a hierarchy or continuum of needs, physical survival and financial security comes first. Other needs are not even activated until that basic need is satisfied, at least minimally.
Han Ng
Han Nghas quoted18 days ago
Inevitably, anytime we are too vulnerable we feel the need to protect ourselves from further wounds. So we resort to sarcasm, cutting humor, criticism—anything that will keep from exposing the tenderness within. Each partner tends to wait on the initiative of the other for love, only to be disappointed but also confirmed as to the rightness of the accusations made.
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