John Karter

    b5085891807has quoted2 years ago
    people bring needs into their relationships that have not been communicated to the other person. This in turn conjures up unspoken expectations of their partner, and assumptions about the relationship itself and how it is going to be, a situation that provides an instant recipe for conflict
    Kaushiki Mathershas quoted2 years ago
    The past is not dead. In fact, it’s not even past.

    William Faulkner
    Kaushiki Mathershas quoted2 years ago
    The past is not dead. In fact, it’s not even past.

    William Faulkner
    b1805636851has quoted2 years ago
    The more you are able to gain insight into the hidden agendas, feelings and unspoken communications, and uncover what is really happening between the two of you, the better placed you will be to deal with conflict, change negative and destructive patterns of relating that eat away at the fabric of the relationship, and bring those vital qualities of mutual nurture, respect and genuine love into play.
    b5085891807has quoted2 years ago
    However, when we buy into the widespread idea that harmony and mutual fulfilment happen automatically as a result of meeting the ‘right’ person, an important factor is missed, or dismissed. Meaningful, lasting relationships are incredibly complex, multi-faceted psychological structures that are not built in a day and do not happen purely by accident
    b5085891807has quoted2 years ago
    Like so many things in life, the index of success in relationships almost invariably correlates with the amount of sustained attention, effort and, occasionally, self-sacrifice that each partner is prepared to bring to it.
    b5085891807has quoted2 years ago
    Most of us are so focused on what we expect to get, based on romantic ideals, cultural norms and media propaganda, that the qualities, standards, values and emotional input we actually need to be happy and fulfilled within a relationship are ignored
    b2027273132has quoted2 years ago
    How many of those needs have been met either in full or in part?
    • How many of them have not been met at all?
    • During the course of the relationship, have you recognized new needs and/or discarded some of the original ones?
    • What do you think your partner’s needs were/are? Do you think he/she feels those needs have been met?
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