Iyanla Vanzant

Yesterday, I cried for the woman that I wanted to be. Today, I cry in celebration of her birth. Yesterday, I cried for the little girl in me who was not loved or wanted. Today, I cry as she dances around my heart in celebration of herself

Our ability to do this without getting caught up is what some folks call “success” and others call “personal growth” or “evolution.”

What is it that I am doing to create the present situation in which I find myself?”

She also had a history of putting off the unpleasant, waiting until the last minute to do important things, and doing whatever was necessary to make other people like her

Rhonda had placed me in a situation that was familiar to her, but contradictory and repugnant to the new me

Although Iyanla had learned to expect a miracle and trust the process, Rhonda was into creating drama, panic, and the need to be rescued

Often, when you are on the spiritual path, there is a war that goes on between the person you once were and the person you are becoming

The old you, the one who helped you survive, the one that was there for you in the rough times, is going to fight to stay alive. The old you knows your secrets and your history. The old you knows your defense mechanisms, what you will do when your buttons get pushed, and exactly where your weaknesses lie. The old you knows what works for you and is terrified by the thought of trying something new. The old you is comfortable with the way things were and are. The old you wants to stay in control. The old you has home-court advantage

I had no need to be rescued, no need to be taken care of, so why was I crying and feeling unworthy. What was happening?

There were

Women’s work goes beyond faith. Faith is what you need when you don’t have discipline, and when you don’t know. When you know, you do the work, and you don’t need faith.”