Quotes
Narcissists are covert, underhanded and incredibly manipulative in the way they devalue their victims. They target both your insecurities as well as what you’re most proud of. It’s a mix of both; if you tell them what you’re most insecure about, they’ll make sure to sneak in a cutting remark at some point about it. If you tell them what you’re most proud of accomplishing, they’ll find ways to diminish your pride and make you feel as if you’re not special – because, of course, only they are allowed to be special and unique.
This devaluation could be disguised as harsh “jokes,” or “brutal honesty,” when they in fact involved verbal abuse, name-calling, condescending sarcasm, a sudden withdrawal of affection, overt or covert put-downs or unhealthy comparisons to others to instill a sense of worthlessness. The devaluation can also be overt and heinous. In my own experiences, during more overt, full-fledged devaluing explosions, there was often a verbally and emotionally abusive argument that would last for hours, followed by false remorse and a glimpse of the narcissist’s sweet false self to pull me back in.
This devaluation could be disguised as harsh “jokes,” or “brutal honesty,” when they in fact involved verbal abuse, name-calling, condescending sarcasm, a sudden withdrawal of affection, overt or covert put-downs or unhealthy comparisons to others to instill a sense of worthlessness. The devaluation can also be overt and heinous. In my own experiences, during more overt, full-fledged devaluing explosions, there was often a verbally and emotionally abusive argument that would last for hours, followed by false remorse and a glimpse of the narcissist’s sweet false self to pull me back in.
about it. If you tell them what you’re most proud of accomplishing, they’ll find ways to diminish your pride and make you feel as if you’re not special – because, of course, only they are allowed to be special and unique.
This devaluation could be disguised as harsh “jokes,” or “brutal honesty,” when they in fact involved verbal abuse, name-calling, condescending sarcasm, a sudden withdrawal of affection, overt or covert put-downs or unhealthy comparisons to others to instill a sense of worthlessness. The devaluation can also be overt and heinous. In my own experiences, during more overt, full-fledged devaluing explosions, there was often a verbally and emotionally abusive argument that would last for hours, followed by false remorse and a glimpse of the narcissist’s sweet false self to pull me back in.
This devaluation could be disguised as harsh “jokes,” or “brutal honesty,” when they in fact involved verbal abuse, name-calling, condescending sarcasm, a sudden withdrawal of affection, overt or covert put-downs or unhealthy comparisons to others to instill a sense of worthlessness. The devaluation can also be overt and heinous. In my own experiences, during more overt, full-fledged devaluing explosions, there was often a verbally and emotionally abusive argument that would last for hours, followed by false remorse and a glimpse of the narcissist’s sweet false self to pull me back in.
Rather, it is your ability to seek your own validation and move forward into your success, channeling the experiences that were meant to destroy you into your greatest victories, that is appalling to these predators.
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