Mike Fisher

Mindfulness and the Art of Managing Anger

Mindfulness & the Art of Managing Anger explores the powerful emotion of toxic anger — what it is, why we experience it and how we can learn to control its destructive power through the very nature of mindfulness. Fusing Western and Buddhist thought, therapeutic tools, specific meditative practices and frank personal anecdotes, this book reveals how we can all clear the red mist for peaceful wellbeing.
125 printed pages
Original publication



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    Peter Gazaryanhas quoted4 years ago
    Most angry people have no idea who they are, what they believe in or what they stand for.
    Marko232has quotedlast year
    My problem with the concept was that if one could choose to be happy, then one could also choose sadness, hurt, fear, shame or anger. The possibility intrigued me, but at the time I was too depressed to take it on board. I didn’t feel I had a choice about anything and this concept just felt too abstract.

    It’s much easier for me today to embrace this concept. Years of personal development, therapy and training have enabled me not to be hijacked by my feelings. However, despite all this work, I now believe that the simple concept of having a choice as to how much energy I’m willing to invest in a feeling at any given moment is profoundly liberating.

    Sound Investments
    Taking responsibility for our decisions requires an ability to step back and be objective. If our anger is being triggered, we first need to accept responsibility for that fact and then give ourselves the chance to decide how much we want to invest in it.

    It’s convenient to believe that other people make us angry. The number of times I have heard how someone else was responsible for making someone feel something they didn’t want to feel! It’s simply not true – it’s impossible. Only you can make you feel what you feel. There is no other you but you inside your head. Sure, others can emotionally manipulate us, but we still have the choice as to how much we will engage.

    So if we can be our own masters and decide how much we will invest into any state of feeling, then happiness can become a choice. I do realize this is a difficult concept to accept and understand, never mind utilize. Some people may not even have access to the full range of their feelings yet. Angry people in particular suffer from the affliction of disassociating from their feelings and tend to default into anger. However, perhaps it’s useful to hold it in your awareness that you don’t have to fall victim to your own rage, that you can exercise choice and begin to move towards that goal.
    Jenshas quoted3 years ago
    Worshipping the Wrong God
    What I became increasingly aware of in relation to this client group is that, for so many, their lives have no meaning – they followed the wrong god home. I don’t mean ‘god’ in the religious or even spiritual sense, but in that they have made their desires and attachments their god and they’ve been completely hoodwinked by ownership, status and materialism.
    They were trained to believe that having possessions, status, influence and power would be their elixir of life – but ‘meaning’ is not something you can buy off the shelf. In my experience with this particular client group, their lack of humility prevents them from experiencing meaning in their lives. This type of angry person can be highly opinionated, arrogant with a self-serving skewed morality, have a distorted value system and an unethical framework. They’ve used anger as well as these mechanisms to propel them up the ‘success ladder’, and it’s only a matter of time until something gives. It can be the loss of a huge amount of money, career, position, wife, child, or just an intense sense of dissatisfaction or a feeling of losing control that brings them to sit in my office.
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