What makes a performance different than an experience? It’s all in your head.
Are you trying to look good? Do you want to impress others or win something? Are you looking for acceptance, approval, accolades, wild and thunderous applause? Is it painful when you don’t get those things? You’re probably performing.
If you’re experiencing, on the other hand, you’re exploring what something feels like. You are trying to see what would happen if. . . . When you’re experiencing, you can appreciate negative outcomes as well as positive ones. Sure, acceptance and approval and accolades feel good, but those things don’t determine success. Success is based on whether you fully immerse yourself in the experience, no matter how it turns out, and whether you learn from it. That kind of success can always be achieved regardless of how others respond.