“That’s child abuse!”
When the author heard those words on a plateau in the Himalayas, her life changed forever. She learned that she could speak truth about the abuse she endured as a young child.
Wendy’s grandfather, Konrad Frederick Koosmann, was a Bishop in the American Lutheran Church. He was also a pedophile who preyed on little girls in his own family, including Wendy.
This story addresses the family dynamics that allow child sexual abuse to occur unchecked and remain secret for decades. As an adult, Wendy chose the path to speak the truth despite many roadblocks put in her way to stop her. Rather than dwelling on the abuse itself, Family Legends, Family Lies describes the power of secrets, shame, and silence.
This is a “must read” for professionals who work with abused children and their families. It is a “must read” for anyone who wants deeper insight into dysfunctional families. This cautionary tale reveals the lies and legends that prevent children from being heard. In addition, the story conveys the lasting impact that child sexual abuse has on adults who were betrayed by the very family members who were supposed to protect them.