Christine Hassler

Expectation Hangover

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    AWARENESS AND ACCEPTANCE
    “Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it…it’s just easier if you do.”
    — Byron Katie
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    we have to be willing to address them on a range of levels — emotional, mental, and behavioral, as well as spiritual
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    In my experience we cannot solely meditate, chant, or pray our way out of an Expectation Hangover. Spiritual practices are key, but we are multidimensional beings.
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    Why not? Because what motivated and attracted the new thing was your disappointment and feeling of lacking something.
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    THE NEXT BEST THING
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    Vulnerability is a powerful tool for healing
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    “Be strong” is one of the most common pieces of advice I’ve heard
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    the longer you suppress by numbing, the more dependent you become on your suppression tool of choice.
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    However, numbing is one of the most damaging coping strategies due to the high level of stimulation it involves.
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    spending time on social media, internet surfing
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    six most commonly used yet ineffective strategies for coping with Expectation Hangovers are summarized in this chapter.
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    NUMBING THE PAIN
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    “Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.”
    — J. K. Rowling
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    You have always been doing the best you could. Really. Even if you do not totally believe this yet, begin to consider it. Beating yourself up and continuing to believe that you are being tested or punished will only perpetuate your Expectation Hangover and potentially make it worse.
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    Lesson 4: You Are Not Being Punished
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    Our obsession with what we can do, be, or have leaves us constantly looking for some external result. Then, once we get the things we think we want, we experience an Expectation Hangover if they are not as fulfilling as we thought they would be. Or we experience a short-term boost but then start looking for the next thing to strive for. It’s an endless cycle.
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    Lesson 3: It Ain’t Out There
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    Disappointment itself can become a comfort zone.
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    Lesson 2: Your Comfort Zone Is a Trap
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    Things felt so out of control I finally allowed myself to ask questions like “Do you really want to take another job that will just pay the bills and keep you in the nine-to-five game for another thirty years? Or do you want to take notice, choose to see this firing as a gift, and give your life a hard shift in the direction of your dreams?”
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