Soulmates

What seems to be love at first sight is sometimes preceded by a long series of encounters in which meant-to-be lovers pass each other by without any sign of recognition.

Our soul and our guide try to direct us to individuals who share our purpose in life, complement our strengths, and supplement our weaknesses. But there is no guarantee that these ideal mates are going to look the way we expect, or be of our own background. That’s only one of the reasons why they are so easy to miss if we are not listening for guidance.

We can see that we always seem to fall in love with people who wind up disappointing us, but we have no idea what we’d need to do differently in order to create better outcomes.

Individuals who attract our ego are seldom the ones our soul deeply desires to be with, and our soulmates are often people who look all wrong to our ego.

However, our ego is not our self, but merely our self-image—a made-up character looking for fellow actors it can recruit to play complementary roles. When we allow our false self to run our love life, the partners it chooses are not likely to be ones that will make us happy. Our ego is only interested in the dramatic possibilities of relationships, not their potential as opportunities for sharing love.

when we are identifying with the ego we’ve invented to represent us, our romantic choices are strongly influenced by whatever preferences, aversions, and prejudices our upbringing has taught us. Each ego develops a list of specifications for the kind of mate it wants, involving the particular physical characteristics it has been conditioned to find attractive, as well as the manners, temperament, social standing, beliefs, and attitudes it associates with an ideal life partner. Psychologists call this our love map.

, the self you imagine yourself to be on the basis of the beliefs and attitudes you’ve adopted, is what I will be calling your ego or personality.

Our soul seeks partners with whom deeply meaningful, mutually fulfilling relationships are possible—individuals who function at our own level of consciousness, share our life’s purpose, and challenge us to grow beyond limiting self-concepts.

Recognize Our Soulmates?