I Came, I Saw, I Coffeed

Have you ever wondered what goes through a man's mind when you first meet?
“Why didn't he call me back? What did he think of me? Did I say the wrong thing?”

I was newly singled after an unwanted divorce and retired early, so I had time on my hands to find a girlfriend.   I didn't want to be alone and hadn't dated in years. I was eager to meet a woman and became discouraged trying to find someone to be your love, your best-trusted friend, a confidant, and companion — a very difficult task.


Seeing my low spirits to get on with a search to find a woman, a good friend simply told me dating is “Just a game of numbers — the more ladies you meet, the better decision you'll make.” So, I ventured into the field of online dating and over three years met over 350 ladies. Many women asked me what goes through a man's mind when he meets a woman. In this book, I spell out my thoughts about some of the women I met, her walk, her appearance, demeanor, clothes, habits, figure, etc. in detail.


How did I arrange online to meet over 350 women? I simply explained I preferred meeting in person rather than trading potentially misunderstood messages online. You can't hear voice inflections or observe body language in a message. Most women agreed. Of course, some asked to first talk on the phone before meeting up which I did.


Each evening, I searched the dating site, sending smiles or greetings to 20–30 women per day, and got numerous replies the next day and proceeded to schedule them as best as I could.


All my life I enjoyed meeting new people. The women were fascinating, fun, and interesting. Of course, I don't know what other men think and, obviously, the impressions I describe in this book are my own. I hope women who read this book will find it insightful, entertaining, amusing, and useful. Names and places have been changed for privacy.


“It's not the impression you make — it's the impression you leave. And, keep in mind you'll have to live up to that first impression, so it's best to be just yourself.” -Anonymous