Patriarchy has demanded that women be small and give away our power in exchange for external approval.
Кристина Байдебураhas quoted3 years ago
My sense is that the true gift of the pain of being unseen is having no choice but to find and claim one’s worth within oneself first, without getting the approval or validation of others
Кристина Байдебураhas quoted3 years ago
For many of us, growing up involved a series of self-betrayals in which we had no choice but to create an inner split in order to survive. The split usually involved some form of numbing our feelings and rejecting ourselves in order to be accepted by our families.
Кристина Байдебураhas quoted3 years ago
Learning that I could survive my mother’s rejection of me gave me an increasing ability to recognize and speak out against toxicity whenever I saw it. And
Кристина Байдебураhas quoted3 years ago
Her opinions do not have to dictate your reality. Let her have her own experience without rushing in to explain or emotionally take care of her; this is a form of respect for her and for yourself
Кристина Байдебураhas quoted3 years ago
Thankfully, each time, I managed to remind myself that I had already tried to explain it over and over again, and it had never worked
Кристина Байдебураhas quoted3 years ago
Part of me was thrilled and proud of myself for standing up to my mother and setting strong boundaries with my family members
Кристина Байдебураhas quoted3 years ago
The fear of being seen as a “bad daughter” in pursuit of our own healing can be one of our greatest obstacles at the gate of our power, preventing us from accessing the many gifts and powerful transformation that lie within the pain of the Mother Wound
Кристина Байдебураhas quoted3 years ago
You may discover something deeply profound that many people never do: you can survive your mother’s rejection
Кристина Байдебураhas quoted3 years ago
And you don’t owe people an apology or explanation for doing what’s right for you. This is a form of claiming your personal power, a form of self-love