Love, Sex and Your Heart

It is the purpose of this book to elucidate these connections so that the reader may see how his emotional life is tied to his physical being and how his physical health is dependent on his emotional well-being. It is my hope that understanding the causes of the fear of love will help the reader become a more loving person, thus ensuring the health of his heart. Without such knowledge, all our efforts to ensure the health of our hearts fail to go to the core of the problem

we wish to understand illness, especially chronic illness, we must use a holistic approach and look at the person as well as his organs.

All depressive reactions have their roots in a loss of love that has not been properly mourned.

The loss of a loved person must be mourned if one is to resume a normal life after the loss.

True manliness lies in a person’s identification with his sexual feelings, not in his sexual performance.

The therapeutic approach to changing behavior is to help the patient understand the dynamics of the inner struggle and to express the feelings relating to that struggle.

The inability to express anger leaves the muscles in a state of tension and contraction. Over time they become rigid and hard.

Suppressing the impulse to strike out in anger immobilizes both movements, leaving the individual in a contracted and, therefore, frozen state.

This blockage keeps people from experiencing their full potential of aliveness.

Was I trying to prove myself worthy of love? I

out. I was in an internal struggle to achieve and perform at the expense of my feelings

Rather, it is frequently influenced by emotional issues, conscious and unconscious conflicts.

Thus, personality issues are key elements found in almost every illne

head. My head had betrayed my heart by assuming power and dictating behavior on the ground that the king, my heart, was infantile. The dream depicted the typical conflict between the adult ego and the heart. If I would save my heart, I had to lose my head—that was one message of the dream. The other was that there was no real threat to I my life if I saw the reality of my situation. I was free. I simply had to acknowledge the hegemony of my heart. I had created the conflict and therefore could resolve it by realizing that the role of the adviser is not to make decisions. That is the king’s prerogative. The role of the adviser is to keep