And then she starts on a whiny, how-come-you’ve-got-yourself-into-this-mess speech, which I know is a result of her powerlessness and panic, but it’s my day today, such as it is, and I’m not prepared to listen to that either. She’s OK about me shutting her up, though: because she still treats me like a child, birthdays are times when I am allowed to behave like one.