Surrounded by Psychopaths

they say is often completely illogical and incoherent, they make us believe it is true.

Many psychopaths are classic narcissists—that is, they only love themselves.

Wolf in sheep’s clothing”

Psychopathy is at least as common as schizophrenia.

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Cullberg, Marta. In Depth Self-esteem: A Therapy to Repair Negative Self-Images. Natur and Kultur, 2009.

So my advice is this: Get up and go.

Don’t try to fight the psychopath. Forget about retaliating. It isn’t going to work. Don’t expose them on social media and don’t paint them as the psychopath they are. They’re prepared for that and can counterattack. They will become even fiercer and will try to crush you without mercy if they think you are attacking them

not possible to cure psychopathy. It’s a personality disorder caused by an abnormality in the brain. There is a lot of neurobiological research on the subject, and new
findings are published every year. With the help of MRI scans, it’s possible to determine exactly where in the brain the deviation is located: This is a slight simplification, but the amygdala (which helps process emotions and memories) seems to be involved. But as of now there is no way to cure psychopathy.

know that you want me to do the job for you, but your threats won’t work on me any longer.
I realize that you want me to go with you tomorrow, but ignoring me and subjecting me to the silent treatment is not going to have any effect.
I can see that you want me to do that, but your anger and your swearing simply won’t work any longer.

give you a framework that you can adapt to your own situation. Be sure to include every step to avoid misunderstandings.

This is what you should say:

When you … (describe what the manipulator is doing that you want them to stop doing)
I feel … (describe exactly what sort of negative feeling is created)
If you stopped … (the objectionable behavior) and instead … (describe what kind of behavior you want to see in this given situation)
Then I am going to feel … (describe exactly what feeling you want to have with your partner/boss/colleague/mother or whomever the manipulator is)
You need to say exactly those things in exactly that order. That way your message will be understood and there’s a good chance that the manipulator will actually listen to you. If they’re essentially a reasonable person who has simply gotten stuck behaving in a harmful manner, then you’ll see them change if you use this method.