you are unable to delay having your boy in long day care then try to choose an environment that values building relationships over educating your child. What works best is when a little boy can have one educator as his primary caregiver — someone who will be a substitute mother for him. For some, this may be family day care. Also, aim to minimize the time he is spending there when he’s under three. If your son’s secondary attachment needs are met and the educators are aware of the unique differences between girls and boys and they respect this, the chances are good that your little