Most people confuse sensitivity with shyness. That is why you heard “You’re too shy.” People say a certain dog, cat, or horse was born “shy” when it really has a sensitive nervous system (unless it has been abused; then it would be more accurate to say it’s “afraid”). Shyness is the fear others are not going to like or approve of us. That makes it a response to a situation. It is a certain state, not an always-present trait. Shyness, even chronic shyness, is not inherited. Sensitivity is. And while chronic shyness does develop more in HSPs, it needn’t. I have met many HSPs who are almost never shy.