Michael Reist

Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys

Raising emotionally healthy children is not just about what we need to do, but what we need to avoid doing.

We all know that repressing our feelings can be damaging, and that emotional repression is an especially prevalent issue among males. From a very young age, boys are socialized to hide their emotions. Girls, on the other hand, are encouraged to learn a much broader range of emotional expression. The long-term repercussions of this imbalance are profound.
Many of the problems we face, both as a society and as a species, are directly affected by how we raise our boys. We are all products of nature and nurture combined. The conscious and unconscious lessons we give our children often enhance and improve their human natures, but can sometimes degrade them, too.
As we come to the end of thousands of years of patriarchy, we are being challenged to redefine masculinity. Our boys are lucky to be living in such a time, and luckier when they have adults in their lives who are aware of how their minds function and what they need. If we want to raise men who are strong, confident, and whole in the best sense of these words, then parents around the world urgently need a conversation about what we teach — and don’t teach — our boys.
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    Massiel Del Villarhas quoted2 years ago
    In order to raise emotionally healthy children, we need to take care of our own emotional health, and this means working on our relationships with other adults including our romantic relationships. We must never take our sustaining relationships for granted. When a parent becomes socially and emotionally isolated, it is not good for children.
    Massiel Del Villarhas quoted2 years ago
    We can invoke Barbara Coloroso’s three questions: Is it harmful to the child? Is it harmful to others? Does it violate a moral code? If the answer to all three questions is no, then go ahead and enjoy.
    Massiel Del Villarhas quoted2 years ago
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