You've discovered that your husband has cheated on you. Your world is crashing down. You feel like a nuclear bomb just decimated your entire world, and you are trying to shield yourself from the fallout. You've been sucker punched in the soul. Infidelity in marriage makes you doubt everything, including your own judgement.
You've built a life together. You have a home. You have children. He seems sincere in wanting to work things out. You want to stay married. But then you think to yourself, "Only weak women stay with cheaters.Strong women walk!" Then you loop and want a divorce, until you think of your kids being spilt between two homes and now you want to stay married. Lather, Rinse, Repeat.
You will never get unstuck until you develop criteria around if your husband is sincere in wanting your marriage to recover after infidelity.
In Fool Me Once, Dr. Caroline Madden a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist shares the criteria she uses in to determine if a man is truly remorseful and determined to save his marriage or if he is likely to cheat again.
Here is some of the information she shares:
5 Things That Look Suspicious (But Probably Aren't)5 Signs You Should Consider Giving Him Another Chance 7 Signs He is Going to Cheat Again (And You Will Be Hurt Again)Infidelity in marriage is traumatic and you need to take time to assess the situation. Fool Me Once will give you the tools you need to evaluate your relationship. It will help you determine whether you should trust your husband or not and decide if your marriage is worth saving.
As they say "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."