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Brene Brown

I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame

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  • Deiby Pangemananhas quoted5 years ago
    The prerequisite for empathy is compassion. We can only respond empathically if we are willing to hear someone’s pain. We sometimes think of compassion as a saintlike virtue. It’s not. In fact, compassion is possible for anyone who can accept the struggles that make us human—our fears, imperfections, losses and shame. We can only respond compassionately to someone telling her story if we have embraced our own story—shame and all. Compassion is not a virtue—it is a commitment.
  • Mahabbat Temirgalievahas quoted5 years ago
    If we really want to get at the heart of the beast, we have to understand more than what it feels like to experience shame. We need to understand when and why we are the most likely to engage in shaming behaviors toward others, how we can develop our resilience to shame and how we can consciously make the effort not to shame others.
  • Mahabbat Temirgalievahas quoted5 years ago
    Shame is being rejected.
    • You work hard to show the world what it wants to see. Shame happens when your mask is pulled off and the unlikable parts of you are seen. It feels unbearable to be seen.
    • Shame is feeling like an outsider—not belonging.
    • Shame is hating yourself and understanding why other people hate you too.
    • I think it’s about self-loathing.
    • Shame is like a prison. But a prison that you deserve to be in because something’s wrong with you.
    • Shame is being exposed—the flawed parts of yourself that you want to hide from everyone are revealed. You want to hide or die
  • Mahabbat Temirgalievahas quoted5 years ago
    Individuals, families and communities use shame as a tool to change others and to protect themselves. In doing this, we create a society that fails to recognize how much damage shame does to our spirit and to the soul of our families and our communities
  • Mahabbat Temirgalievahas quoted5 years ago
    powerful proposition—“You CANNOT shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors
  • Maria José Sandovalhas quoted5 years ago
    The culture of shame is driven by fear, blame and disconnection, and it is often a powerful incubator for issues like perfectionism, stereotyping, gossiping and addiction.
  • Julia Medinahas quoted7 years ago
    We weren’t born afraid to tell our stories. We weren’t born with a fear of getting too old to feel valuable. We weren’t born with a Pottery Barn catalog in one hand and heartbreaking debt in the other. Shame comes from outside of us—from the messages and expectations of our culture. What comes from the inside of us is a very human need to belong, to relate.
  • Lidia Pitelinahas quoted3 years ago
    I often refer to shame as the fear of disconnection—the fear of being perceived as flawed and unworthy of acceptance or belonging
  • Lidia Pitelinahas quoted3 years ago
    Sometimes we turn these emotions inward and convince ourselves that we are bad and that maybe we deserve the rejection that we so desperately fear.
  • Deiby Pangemananhas quoted5 years ago
    We are wired for connection. It’s in our biology. As infants, our need for connection is about survival. As we grow older, connection means thriving—emotionally, physically, spiritually and intellectually. Connection is critical because we all have the basic need to feel accepted and to believe that we belong and are valued for who we are.
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