Healing Everyday Traumas

It creates this false image by putting an overlay, like a plastic film, over the outside of the golden dome. The effect is like looking into a house through a very dirty win

At its essence, what makes the Safe Place safe is not that it can never be harmed. What makes it safe is that you have total power over what happens there–

No one else can do our work for us, and we can’t do anyone else’s, even if we were willing. An even more thorough cleaning is accomplished by pulling the screen front to back, from side to side, and from above the head to below the feet.

Golden Rain

Notice that the statement is made without anger or resentment. The underlying concept is that each of us has to do our own life’s work

“I keep what is mine for my life’s work, and I lovingly send back to you what is yours for your life’s work.”

If a flashback has come up, you may want to use the net to make sure that all of the parts involved in the memory are taken into the Safe Place at the same time.

But you have to ask. One aspect of empowerment is taking personal responsibility for one’s own work, and this observation seems to be an elegant reflection of that principle.

The Light Net

And they make wonderful helpers. They’re completely immune to flashbacks, because they weren’t affected by any of the trauma memories. They’re infinitely kind and patient and will rock and sing to child parts for as long as needed, even days at a time. They don’t even need sleep.

like having angels in the Safe Place.

I’ve found the concept of angels very useful, and whether they’re viewed as literal or metaphorical makes no difference.