Rachel Heller

self-fulfilling prophecy

fits the bill

withstand the strain

to muster the strength

Why would somebody whom we’ve known to be so adaptive to most of life’s challenges become powerless in this one?

If your parents were sensitive, available, and responsive, you should have a secure attachment style; if they were inconsistently responsive, you should develop an anxious attachment style; and if they were distant, rigid, and unresponsive, you should develop an avoidant attachment style

Although it’s not impossible for someone to change his or her attachment style—on average, one in four people do so over a four-year period—most people are unaware of the issue, so these changes happen without their ever knowing they have occurred (or why).

We’ve been bred to be dependent on a significant other. The need starts in the womb and ends when we die

In prehistoric times, people who relied only on themselves and had no one to protect them were more likely to end up as prey.

adults show patterns of attachment to their romantic partners similar to the patterns of attachment of children with their parents.