Ian Kerner

Whereas many sex books are content to merely tell the reader “what” to do, it’s this author’s conviction that the “when” is just as important.

Studies, like those by Kinsey and Masters and Johnson, have concluded that among women whose partners spent twenty-one minutes or longer on foreplay, only 7.7 percent failed to reach orgasm consistently.

As science writer Natalie Angier writes of the clitoral network, “Nerves are like wolves or birds: if one starts crying, there goes the neighborhood.” So stop thinking of the clitoris as a little bump, and start thinking of it as a complex network, a pleasure dome, the Xanadu at the heart of female sexuality.

your exploration of the clitoral network will lead to the discovery of a whole new world

Know your maps, and know that every voyage is unique

Is it any wonder, then, that according to author Lou Paget the number one question sent in by female readers to the editors of Cosmopolitan magazine is: What can I do to have an orgasm during intercourse? Here’s a simple answer: Don’t have intercourse. Or at least make it part of a larger event and not the event itself.

When we know how to recognize and navigate the process of female sexual response, when we understand the role of the clitoris in stimulating that process, then sex becomes easier, simpler, and more rewarding, and we’re impelled to create pleasure not just with our penises, but with our hands and mouths, bodies and minds.

Sex is no longer penis-dependent, and we can let go of the usual anxieties about size, stamina, and performance

One should not make more assumptions than are absolutely necessary

NUMEROUS STUDIES have demonstrated that women whose lovers give them direct clitoral stimulation during sexual activity are more likely to climax consistently