It’s that simple choice to take responsibility for ourselves and our own values that allows us to feel in control of everything that happens to us. It allows us to transform our negative experiences into empowering experiences. It’s completely counterintuitive – the idea that being responsible for all of the horrible misfortunes that befall us could somehow liberate us from them – but it’s true. Our responsibility for ourselves unleashes a deeper fulfillment by allowing us to construe whatever we confront into a value that fulfills our needs