Henry Cloud,John Townsend

Boundaries with Kids

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  • Ольга Марецкаяhas quoted6 years ago
    But if we could look ahead to the person we are trying to develop, then we could get a handle on some of the immediate parenting problems.
  • Ольга Марецкаяhas quoted6 years ago
    But often we don’t have a very clear picture of the character we are trying to build.
  • Ольга Марецкаяhas quoted6 years ago
    responsibility for oneself was an important quality to build into her child.
  • Ольга Марецкаяhas quoted6 years ago
    As you take a stance of good clear boundaries with children, they will have a better chance of gaining the motivation, the need, the skill, and the plan to live a loving, responsible, righteous, and successful life
  • Ольга Марецкаяhas quoted6 years ago
    Being the source for children is fraught with blessing and difficulty. If parents give without boundaries, children learn to feel entitled and become self-centered and demanding. Ungratefulness becomes a character pattern. If parents hold resources too tightly, children give up and do not develop the hope of reaching goals that have gratifying rewards.
  • Ольга Марецкаяhas quoted6 years ago
    Children come into the world without resources. They don’t know where the food is, how to get shelter, or how to obtain the money they need for basic supplies. They have immaterial needs as well, without knowing how to meet them. They need love, spiritual growth, wisdom, support, and knowledge, all of which are out of their reach.
    Parents are the source of all good things for a child. They are the bridge to the outside world of resources that sustain life.
    And in giving and receiving resources, boundaries play a very important role. Children need to learn how to receive and use responsibly what is given them and gradually take over the role of meeting their own needs. In the beginning, parents are the source; they progressively give the child the independence to obtain what they need on their own.
  • Ольга Марецкаяhas quoted6 years ago
    Boundaries play an important role in managing. Setting limits and requiring the child to take ownership (embracing the problem as his own) and responsibility (taking care of what he has embraced) entail a clear understanding of boundaries.
  • Ольга Марецкаяhas quoted6 years ago
    Allison had to set some goals, control the resources, and manage the consequences until 20
    The Future Is Now
    her son developed the discipline that he would eventually need to get along well with someone other than Mom. In short, she had to manage his immaturity. For instance, she gave him time lines to learn to take care of his belongings and perform jobs around the house. She outlined what would happen if he did not, and she stuck to the consequences that she promised to impose. He lost many privileges and learned the cost of being a slacker.
  • Ольга Марецкаяhas quoted6 years ago
    A manager makes sure things get done—goals are reached, demands and expectations are met. Children are not born with self-discipline; therefore they have to have “other-discipline.”
    Managers provide this other-discipline by making sure the child does the tasks at hand to meet the expectations important for her growth.
    Managers provide this discipline by controlling resources, teaching, enforcing consequences, correcting, chastising, maintaining order, and building skills.
  • Ольга Марецкаяhas quoted6 years ago
    This protective guardian steps in with appropriate boundaries and limits to guard children from several sources of danger: 1. Dangers within themselves
    2. Dangers in the outside world
    3. Inappropriate freedoms that they are not ready to handle 4. Never appropriate or evil actions, behaviors, or attitudes (such as serial killing or using LSD)
    5. Their own regressive tendency to remain dependent and avoid growing up
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