Chris Voss

Never Split the Difference

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  • Aaron Garcíahas quoted5 years ago
    people want to be understood and accepted. Listening is the cheapest, yet most effective concession we can make to get there. By listening intensely, a negotiator demonstrates empathy and shows a sincere desire to better understand what the other side is experiencing.
  • zanyar baezhas quoted10 months ago
    It seems like this building functions more as a glorified dormitory than a classic multifamily building,” my student said, using a label to extract more information
  • zanyar baezhas quoted10 months ago
    when you recognize that your counterpart is not irrational, but simply ill-informed, constrained, or obeying interests that you do not yet know, your field of movement greatly expands. And that allows you to negotiate much more effectively.

    Here are a few ways to unearth these powerful Black Swans:

    GET FACE TIME

    Black Swans are incredibly hard to uncover if you’re not literally at the table
  • zanyar baezhas quoted10 months ago
    his own goals
  • zanyar baezhas quoted10 months ago
    feelings. In addition, they tend to become less defensive and oppositional and more willing to listen to other points of view, which gets them to the calm and logical place where they can be good Getting to Yes problem solvers.

    The whole concept, which you’ll learn as the centerpiece of this book, is called Tactical Empathy. This is listening as a martial art, balancing the subtle behaviors of emotional intelligence and the assertive skills of influence, to gain access to the mind of another person. Contrary to popular opinion, listening is not a passive activity. It is the most active thing you can do
  • b9307031218has quotedlast year
    Their system was easy to follow and seductive, with four basic tenets. One, separate the person—the emotion—from the problem; two, don’t get wrapped up in the other side’s position (what they’re asking for) but instead focus on their interests (why they’re asking for it) so that you can find what they really want; three, work cooperatively to generate win-win options; and, four, establish mutually agreed-upon standards for evaluating those possible solutions
  • b8281519208has quoted2 years ago
    Contrary to popular opinion, listening is not a passive activity. It is the most active thing you can do.
  • zanyar baezhas quoted2 years ago
    ■ Use backup listeners whose only job is to listen between the lines. They will hear things you miss
  • zanyar baezhas quoted2 years ago
    First, pay very close attention to tone and body language to make sure they match up with the literal meaning of the words
  • zanyar baezhas quoted2 years ago
    This question tends to have the positive effect of making the other side take a good look at your situation. This positive dynamic is what I refer to as “forced empathy,”
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