EQ Genius

This is a very simple example, but the message is the same: don't just react, act! Get the things done that you want to do. You are in control of your emotions and your actions. Don't blame others, just keep striving toward a goal that you now know you can reach!

You have to go for your goals, and if you can understand that you are in charge of yourself and your actions, then you can see how to conduct yourself toward success in your life.

Improving Motivation – so often, people with a low EQ feel like they can't control anything in their lives; rather, they spend their time simply reacting, instead of acting.

You will see the amount of stress in your life reduced as you make an effort to reach out to people in a friendly and caring way. Help people when you can, and make sure to thank people who help you. If you stick to the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” you will become a person who is valued and welcome.

If your wife reminds you about the trash in a nagging tone, consider that it is because she has already asked you about it and is frustrated that you didn't respond, or that she is resentful at having to remind you of your responsibility. Rather than feeling angry at her, try to understand how you might feel just as she does if you were in her place. Imagine how you feel when someone ignores you, or orders you around, or insults you. That's the way others feel when you do it to them.

Stereotyping others – low-EQ individuals are too self-absorbed to be interested on others, and so they tend to be dismissive of strangers, resorting to stereotypes instead of actually getting to know other people as individuals.

high-EQ people are drawn to helping others, whether it is a life-saving job, volunteer work, or an everyday habit of small things, such as helping a child tie a shoe or an elderly person step down out of a bus.

A genuine interest in other people – people with a high EQ aren't afraid of getting to know people outside their normal circles. They enjoy meeting new people and learning about them, asking plenty of questions to learn more.

Social skills enable a person to relate to others in many beneficial ways, building a sense of collaboration and camaraderie. In the military, soldiers will follow good leaders into life-threatening battles because of a sense of devotion as much as duty.

Empathy is knowing the feeling; really understanding it and sharing in it.