Official Workbook: Read People like a Book

Recognizing people's "inner child" is another way to understand their deepest motives.

According to Swiss psychologist Carl Jung, the shadow consists of everything in ourselves that we'd rather not look at. They are the parts of ourselves that we conceal from both others and ourselves. Humans have a hard time seeing their flaws because of emotions like fear, panic, rage, and arrogance.

Do you think it’s a result of a life circumstance, or is it just the person’s personality?

In this chapter of the workbook, you'll learn how to accurately dissect people’s motivations. Are they driven by desire, hate, like and dislike, pleasure and pain, fear, obligation, habit, or force? Once you understand someone's driving forces, you'll be better able to accept their actions as a rational and consistent reflection of who they are as a person.

Their acts may serve as windows into their intentions and, ultimately, their personalities.

Think back to a time when you were desperate to "get" someone. It might have been because you cared a lot about how they would act or because you were trying to figure out why they had already acted the way they did.

To figure out why people act the way they do, we have to look at their motivations. Humans do things for different reasons. You wouldn’t drink water if you weren’t thirsty, would you? Whether it’s good or bad, conscious or unconscious, there is always something that drives someone to act a certain way. When reading people’s behavior, the key is to be aware of their motivations. You have to b

Think back to a time when you were desperate to "get" someone. It might have been because you cared a lot about how they would act or because you were trying to figure out why they had already acted the way they did.

To figure out why people act the way they do, we have to look at their motivations. Humans do things for different reasons. You wouldn’t drink water if you weren’t thirsty, would you? Whether it’s good or bad, conscious or unconscious, there is always something that drives someone to act a certain way. When reading people’s behavior, the key is to be aware of their motivations. You have to be

If you feel that someone is projecting their shadow onto you, what will you do to show your understanding and compassion to them? How will you tu

you feel that someone is projecting their shadow onto you, what will you do to show your understanding and compassion to them? How will you tu

During the argument, what did they say that really triggered you, and how did you react to it? Do you think t

Learning about someone else's shadow might be as simple as seeing how it affects your own. If you take offense instead of laughing it off when someone labels you "dumb," then there must be some secret part of you that doesn't want to feel inferior.