Quiet Leadership

expressions, in a model called The Four Faces of Insight.

“How long have you been thinking about this, in days, weeks, months, or years?”
“How often do you think about this, how many times each hour, day, or week?”
“How long do you think about it, when you do think about it, in minutes or hours?”
“How important is this issue to you, on a scale of one to ten?
“Is this in your top three, five, or ten priorities right now?”
“How committed to changing this issue are you, on a scale of one to ten?”
“How do you feel about the thinking time you have given this so far?”
“What are your main insights about this issue up to now?”
“On a scale of one to ten, how confident are you that you have all the information you need to act?”
“What’s the insight brewing at the back of your mind?”

. There are also some extra online resources at www.quietleadership.com, including additional readings and links, as well as online questionnaires I have created to gather data for research purposes

When there is a gap between one’s real and declared aims, one turns instinctively to long words and exhausted idioms, like cuttlefish squirting out ink.
GEORGE ORWELL (1903–1950)

the difference between stretching myself and another person stretching me was infinite! My trainer got me doing exercises I would never have dreamed of, and then doing more repetitions than I could ever imagine, then repeating the process three times over. It was only during the second repetition that I realized I wasn’t going to die, and I started to feel great. Would I have got there on my own? Definitely not. Having others stretch us is a way to grow faster than we would on our own.

Getting to this point requires we go through a stage of mild discomfort, uncertainty, and often even frustration and fear.

Any time we try a new activity, behavior, or way of thinking, we are literally forging a new pathway in our brain. We’re creating circuits that don’t currently exist. Doing this takes energy and focus, and requires extensive use of our conscious mind.

FOCUS ON SOLUTIONS
What we pay attention to, and how we pay attention, determines the content and quality of life.
MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI (2003)

What we pay attention to, and how we pay attention, determines the content and quality of life.