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Caroll Tavris

Mistakes Were Made

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  • tytahas quoted4 years ago
    Children who, like their Asian counterparts, are praised for their efforts, even when they don't "get it" at first, eventually perform better and like what they are learning more than children praised for their natural abilities.
  • tytahas quoted4 years ago
    If we can resist the temptation to justify our actions in a rigid, overconfident way, we can leave the door open to empathy and an appreciation of life's complexity, including the possibility that what was right for us might not have been right for others.
  • tytahas quoted4 years ago
    Understanding how the mind yearns for consonance, and rejects information that questions our beliefs, decisions, or preferences, teaches us to be open to the possibility of error. It also helps us let go of the need to be right.
  • tytahas quoted4 years ago
    People could remain passionately committed to their nation, religion, political party, spouse, and family, yet understand that it is not disloyal to disagree with actions or policies they find inappropriate, misguided, or immoral.
  • tytahas quoted4 years ago
    We can learn to put a little space between what we feel and how we respond, insert a moment of reflection, and think about whether we really want to buy that canoe in January, really want to send good money after bad, really want to hold on to a belief that is unfettered by facts. We might even change our minds before our brains freeze our thoughts into consistent patterns.
    Becoming aware that we are in a state of dissonance can help us make sharper, smarter, conscious choices instead of letting automatic, self-protective mechanisms resolve our discomfort in our favor
  • tytahas quoted4 years ago
    If letting go of self-justification and admitting mistakes is so beneficial to the mind and relationships, why aren't more of us doing it? If we are so grateful to others when they do it, why don't we do it more often? First, we don't do it because, as we have seen, most of the time we aren't even aware that we need to.
  • tytahas quoted4 years ago
    Would you rather admit you're wrong now or wait until someone else proves it?
  • tytahas quoted4 years ago
    The mind wants to protect itself from the pain of dissonance with the balm of self-justification; but the soul wants to confess.
  • tytahas quoted4 years ago
    The hardest thing to do is admit a mistake,
  • tytahas quoted4 years ago
    "If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy," said Mandela.
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