How to Keep House While Drowning: 31 days of compassionate help

Please do not bully yourself into doing care tasks. Shame is a horrible long-term motivator.

you feel good when your home is clean and laundry is folded? Ask yourself why.

What messages were you given about domestic care tasks and the meaning behind them?

meaning assigned to a care task was probably given to you by someone else. Take a moment to think about who it may have been.

You deserve kindness and love regardless of how good you are at care tasks

Now imagine what we could do if we were kind to ourselves?

with the view of care tasks as morally neutral, rejecting shame and perfectionism, you can begin to explore ways of caring for your body and space that best serve you

When you view care tasks as moral, not being good at them means you are failing, you’re unsuccessful, you’re not a valid adult, and you are a bad partner or parent.

When barriers to functioning make completing care tasks difficult, a person can experience an immense amount of shame

Quit beating yourself up for having a skill deficit when what you really have is a support deficit.