Frustration – From Source to Solution

Sometimes you have to get kicked by the horse before you realize that they can hurt you. Its like that with the consequences of frustration, it’s just you seem to need to be kicked by frustration a lot more than one time before you realize how damaging it is.

A horse has kicked me once, it hurt and now I have a very healthy respect for the back end of horses. With frustration I was not so fortunate. It wasn’t until the fifth kick when I finally woke up to the damage that frustration caused in my life and realised I could do something about it. Experience is a wonderful way to learn about life and it is fortunately not the only way.

There is an old Sufi parable about knowledge that talks about an old man who on his way home one evening comes across a young man on his hands and knees by a street light. He asks the young man what he is doing and the young man replies that he has lost the key to his house. The old man starts to help the young man look for his key and after some time has passed the old man askes the young man, “is this where you lost the key?” to which the young man replies “no I lost it over there in the dark”. “So why are you looking for it here?” the old man asks, and the young man says “I am looking for it here because this is where the light is.”

When the horse kicked me it was easy to see the source of the pain and then take the appropriate steps to avoid being kicked again. With Frustration the true source often eludes us so that whatever steps we take to avoid the frustration in the future fail.

Discovering the source of your frustration is the most important step to being able to handle frustration effectively and prevent its cancer like damage. I call frustration the source of emotional cancer due to its relentless assault on your confidence, self-esteem and ability to cope with stress.

In “Frustration From Source to Solution” I will help you discover the true source of your frustration and help you build the tools and skills that you will need to diminish the damaging effects that it can have on your life and the lives of those around you. I will shine a light into the darkness so that you can find the key to a life free of the effects of frustration. Frustration will always be there but if you can recognise it quickly then you can build strategies and approaches that will stop it disrupting your life.