Stand Up For Yourself, Set Boundaries, & Stop Pleasing Others

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I cannot accept, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Whenever you are feeling distressed or confused, ask, “What is my task here?” With work colleagues, relationships, family members, or friends, pause and quickly ask if a certain task, idea, or thought is really your business. Is it your responsibility? Is it in your scope of control?

If not, let it go without guilt.

The problem is when you frame a situation as your needs VERSUS other people’s needs.

People call them doormats, pushovers, or people-pleasers, but whatever they’re called, they all seem to have the same playbook: be nice, be helpful, be kind, and no matter what you do, never ever say no

You agree to unreasonable demands to keep the peace . . . but then grow resentful about it anyway

Try the “separation of tasks” exercise above and consciously choose to let go of things that are not your responsibility and not under your control.

Be your own mother (give yourself unconditional compassion and love) and your own father (protect yourself with solid boundaries—and defend them!)

Stop explaining yourself or justifying your choices. You don’t owe that to people

They also needed to put their authentic selves and their feelings on the back burner

“It’s up to them to decide if they like me or not.”