Make people comfortable Connect easily in any context Develop killer eye contact Prepare for any social situation Appear as intuitive as a mind reader Never run out of things to say
zanyar baezhas quoted3 years ago
A good conversationalist’s talent is making sure the other person is comfortable. One crucial way to ensure the other person’s comfort is to be conscientious about making it easier for the other side to answer.
zanyar baezhas quoted3 years ago
But if instead you said, “I saw Forrest Gump recently and it was pretty good,” it’s unlikely anyone will argue with you unless they truly hate Tom Hanks and feel-good movies
zanyar baezhas quoted3 years ago
If you were to say, "I think Forrest Gump is the greatest movie of all time,"
zanyar baezhas quoted3 years ago
Each qualifier and boundary makes the question easier (and more fun) for them to answer
zanyar baezhas quoted3 years ago
There are several qualifiers here based on number or time
zanyar baezhas quoted3 years ago
Any comedy movies you consider pretty decent and can recommend
zanyar baezhas quoted3 years ago
Here’s a common absolute question: What’s your favorite movie?
Put boundaries around the question and make it non-absolute and people will be able to answer the question far more easily.
Transform this question into:
What are your top few movies?
Or
What are some good movies you’ve seen recently?
Or
zanyar baezhas quoted3 years ago
So what’s the solution here?
zanyar baezhas quoted3 years ago
They will start to feel as if they’re at a job interview or in an interrogation instead of a pleasant social interaction