Read People Like a Book: How to Analyze, Understand, and Predict People’s Emotions, Thoughts, Intentions, and Behaviors

“actions speak louder than words”

Projection is a defense mechanism that can cause considerable damage and chaos if not understood for what it is. In this case, we place unwanted and unclaimed feelings onto someone or something else rather than seeing that they are a part of ourselves. We do not recognize our own “dark side” and project it onto others, blaming them for our shortcomings or seeing our flaws in their actions.

Even the least emotionally and socially intelligent people can learn something about other people if they engage with them long enough.

denial and rationalization.

dark exists because of light

we look for patterns.

human beings are complex, living, changing organisms whose inner experience is essentially closed off inside of them.

It’s very easy to boldly claim that you understand another person’s motivations, without ever really stopping to check if you’re correct.

primarily those skills that can allow you to gather genuinely useful information about near-strangers, preferably after just a single conversation.

Every decision we make is based on gaining pleasure or avoiding pain. This is the common motivation for every person on earth.