This is one of the biggest mistakes that couples make: they let other things get in the way during their encounters. Please bear in mind that tantric sex is about the here and the now. So, when you are getting it on, nothing else matters.
This concept doesn’t apply just to phones and email. It also applies to anything else that might be creeping up in your mind.
For example, if you are concerned about your physical appearance, say, you’re concerned about being overweight, then you will find that you won’t be able to get as much out of your encounters as you’d like. Based on this concept, you really, truly, need to let go.
So what if you’re not physically perfect?
So what if you’re not the biggest?
So what if you’re not the most attractive?
If you are attractive and desirable to someone who is willing to engage in tantric sex with you, then it’s just a matter of going with it. In the end, you’ll enjoy the relationship far more simply because you are able to let go of your hang-ups.
The fact of the matter is that we get in our own way. Most of the time, there is genuine attraction and chemistry. But when you don’t give yourself a chance to really enjoy intercourse, then you find your mind more concerned about a million other things. Needless to say, this isn’t the most exciting mindset.
The overwhelming majority of tantra practitioners would much rather get with someone who shares their same mindset rather than someone who’s merely good-looking. This means that tantric sex is much more than just looking good; it’s about being able to translate your passion and desire into a tangible force that can open up the floodgates to amazing experiences of pleasure and ecstasy.