Olivia Fox Cabane

The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism

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  • Rhea April Rodelhas quotedlast year
    Your presentation should have one main, simple, crystal-clear message, supported by three to five key points.
  • Rhea April Rodelhas quotedlast year
    perfection is not when there is no more to add, but when there is no more to subtract.
  • Rhea April Rodelhas quotedlast year
    “Logic makes people think. Emotion makes them act.”
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    The next time you feel yourself considering alternative outcomes to a situation, pay close attention. If your brain is going around in circles, obsessing about possible outcomes, try a responsibility transfer to alleviate some of the anxiety. Consider that there might be an all-powerful entity—the Universe, God, Fate—and entrust it with all the worries on your mind.
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    our minds are fundamentally uncomfortable with uncertainty. The minute our brain registers ambiguity, it flashes an error signal. Uncertainty registers as a tension: something that must be corrected before we can feel comfortable again.
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    Being seen as warm means being perceived as any of the following: benevolent, altruistic, caring, or willing to impact our world in a positive way. Warmth is assessed almost entirely through body language and behavior; it’s evaluated more directly than power.
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    CHARISMATIC BEHAVIOR CAN be broken down into three core elements: presence, power, and warmth.
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    Three quick tips to gain an instant charisma boost in conversation:

    Lower the intonation of your voice at the end of your sentences.
    Reduce how quickly and how often you nod.
    Pause for two full seconds before you speak.
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    When you meet a charismatic person, you get the impression that they have a lot of power and they like you a lot.
  • b9613644393has quoted2 years ago
    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    To be charismatic, you must first learn to overcome the primary obstacle to charisma: internal discomfort.
    Skillfully handle internal discomfort with a three-step process: destigmatize your discomfort, neutralize your negative thoughts, and rewrite your perception of reality.
    Destigmatize and dedramatize uncomfortable feelings by remembering that they are survival instincts and a natural part of the human experience. Think of others who’ve gone through this before—especially people you admire—and see yourself as part of a community of human beings experiencing the same feeling at the same moment.
    Neutralize unhelpful negative thoughts by remembering that the mind often distorts reality and filters your environment to highlight the negative. Think of your negative thoughts as graffiti on a wall—you may find it an ugly sight, but just because you see an ugly sight doesn’t mean you’re an ugly person.
    Rewrite reality by considering a few helpful alternatives to your current perspective. For maximum effect, write down your new realities by hand and describe them in vivid detail.
    For advanced practice, delve into the physical sensations of discomfort. Focusing on the sensations gives your mind something concrete to focus on, drawing your attention away from your feeling that the experience is unbearable.
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