Recognizing Unhealthy Relationships: Guide To Healthy Love & Self Discovery

You deserve to be happy. You deserve to have someone in your life that does care for you as much as you care for them. You deserve to be treated properly. You deserve the experience of having a relationship that adds to your life, not subtracts from it

You would want to see them rise above their pain and turn into something useful

As we grow into adulthood we carry these events along with us. They may go unnoticed from time to time, but they resurface when triggered. The event may have affected the way you carry yourself or the way you treat others. You may have

They have to hit a bottom. Situations have to hit an extreme low point before they will acknowledge the pattern or even realize their behaviors. If they are lucky, they will reach a bottom. If they are not, they will continue to find partners that conform to their ideals

The enabler has the need to try and fix ‘it’ and the partner has the need to ‘control’ any situation outside of themselves

An enabler is someone that usually chooses relationships that are in need of repair right from the beginning. An enabler has a subconscious need to fix and repair the wounded or people they think need their help. Now this perception may or may not be true, but in the eye of the enabler, the person needs help

Without awareness, there is no growth. There is only repetition

Patterns repeat themselves despite their counterparts. We may enter one unhealthy relationship and leave, only to find another in its place. The names may change. The people may change, but the same unhealthy behaviors still exist. Some people may view this as merely a series of unfortunate events. However, there is a greater force at work here

the tables are turned and they are in control,

No matter what your situation was, you will never go away empty handed. You may have to leave material items. You may have to leave your own comfort zone, but you are going to walk away with much more. Every time we have to endure any form of discomfort, we gain strength from the situation and an understanding of compassion for others.