CareNotes

Put “Have fun” on your “To do” list.

The purpose of parenthood is to nurture children, so that someday they can fly solo.

Stop trying to be perfect. You have everything you need to be who you are supposed to be.

Step away from your life to look at it. Life is like a painting—messy close up, but blending into a harmonious whole from a distance.

not dealing effectively with your anger only increases its potential to be destructive.

Anger is a signal—that your rights have been violated, your needs aren’t being met, you’re compromising yourself in some way, an injustice has been done. Let anger be a catalyst to learn more about yourself and create change for the better.

Acknowledge your anger, identify its cause, determine what you can do, express your feelings judiciously, and, if necessary, take action.

Anger that you lock inside can lodge in body cells and tissues, organs and systems—causing headaches, muscle tension, digestive disorders, high blood pressure, insomnia, and other physical problems. Be good to your body by acknowledging and dealing with your anger.

Anger can come in different disguises or be an unseen facet of other emotions, like depression, grief, irritability, anxiety, hatred, guilt, shame, withdrawal, or resentment. And sometimes those emotions can show up as anger. Take time to sift through your moods and feelings to discover any hidden anger.

Identify the trigger for your anger; clarify what’s happening. Are rights and boundaries—yours or another’s—being violated? Are you compromising or losing yourself in some way? Are your needs, dreams, talents being ignored?