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Bessel van der Kolk

  • Nast Huertahas quotedlast year
    my great teacher, Elvin Semrad, had taught us to be skeptical about textbooks. We had only one real textbook, he said: our patients. We should trust only what we could learn from them—and from our own experience. This sounds so simple, but even as Semrad pushed us to rely upon self-knowledge, he also warned us how difficult that process really is, since human beings are experts in wishful thinking and obscuring the truth.
  • Nast Huertahas quotedlast year
    One of the hardest things for traumatized people is to confront their shame about the way they behaved during a traumatic episode, whether it is objectively warranted (as in the commission of atrocities) or not (as in the case of a child who tries to placate her abuser).
  • Nast Huertahas quotedlast year
    It took me years to learn how to effectively treat flashbacks, and in this process Bill turned out to be one of my most important mentors.
  • Nast Huertahas quotedlast year
    They insisted that I had to be part of their newfound unit and gave me a Marine captain’s uniform for my birthday. In retrospect that gesture revealed part of the problem: You were either in or out—you either belonged to the unit or you were nobody. After trauma the world becomes sharply divided between those who know and those who don’t. People who have not shared the traumatic experience cannot be trusted, because they can’t understand it.
  • Nast Huertahas quotedlast year
    In other words, for every soldier who serves in a war zone abroad, there are ten children who are endangered in their own homes.
  • Nast Huertahas quotedlast year
    Healing, he told us, depends on experiential knowledge: You can be fully in charge of your life only if you can acknowledge the reality of your body, in all its visceral dimensions.
  • Nast Huertahas quotedlast year
    The foreword to the landmark 1980 DSM-III was appropriately modest and acknowledged that this diagnostic system was imprecise—so imprecise that it never should be used for forensic or insurance purposes.8 As we will see, that modesty was tragically short-lived.
  • Nast Huertahas quotedlast year
    The brain-disease model overlooks four fundamental truths: (1) our capacity to destroy one another is matched by our capacity to heal one another. Restoring relationships and community is central to restoring well-being;
  • Nast Huertahas quotedlast year
    We tried to comfort her, but I wondered if whatever we discovered would be worth the price of her distress.

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  • Nast Huertahas quotedlast year
    We now know that there is another possible response to threat, which our scans aren’t yet capable of measuring. Some people simply go into denial: Their bodies register the threat, but their conscious minds go on as if nothing has happened.
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