Sharon Salzberg

we can live with our feelings as they move through us, without getting defined by them.

the underlying intentions are quite similar: “Both systems highlight the importance of giving and receiving love and of minimizing anxious clinging or avoidant aloofness and suppression of unwanted mental experiences.”

I learned that in order to truly see and be seen by another person, there has to be differentiation and space between you. We cannot be one

joy is whatever is happening minus our opinion of it, maybe love is whatever is happening minus our attempt to control it.

“If we all got real, basically we would all fall in love with each other,”

after all, they would be less difficult if they themselves were happier!)

Anger can be the spark for the fire. But then you have to create a controlled burn. Instead of a forest fire that will bring down the whole forest,