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Chris Voss

  • walkieThas quoted9 months ago
    as employing what had become one of the FBI’s most potent negotiating tools: the open-ended question.
  • walkieThas quoted9 months ago
    we call this tactic calibrated questions: queries that the other side can respond to but that have no fixed answers. It buys you time. It gives your counterpart the illusion of control—they are the one with the answers and power after all—and it does all that without giving them any idea of how constrained they are by i
  • walkieThas quoted9 months ago
    Mnookin, predictably, started fumbling because the frame of the conversation had shifted from how I’d respond to the threat of my son’s murder to how the professor would deal with the logistical issues involved in getting the money. How he would solve my problems. To every threat and demand he made, I continued to ask how I was supposed to pay him and how was I supposed to know that my son was alive.
  • zanyar baezhas quoted10 months ago
    feelings. In addition, they tend to become less defensive and oppositional and more willing to listen to other points of view, which gets them to the calm and logical place where they can be good Getting to Yes problem solvers.

    The whole concept, which you’ll learn as the centerpiece of this book, is called Tactical Empathy. This is listening as a martial art, balancing the subtle behaviors of emotional intelligence and the assertive skills of influence, to gain access to the mind of another person. Contrary to popular opinion, listening is not a passive activity. It is the most active thing you can do
  • zanyar baezhas quoted10 months ago
    his own goals
  • zanyar baezhas quoted10 months ago
    when you recognize that your counterpart is not irrational, but simply ill-informed, constrained, or obeying interests that you do not yet know, your field of movement greatly expands. And that allows you to negotiate much more effectively.

    Here are a few ways to unearth these powerful Black Swans:

    GET FACE TIME

    Black Swans are incredibly hard to uncover if you’re not literally at the table
  • zanyar baezhas quoted10 months ago
    It seems like this building functions more as a glorified dormitory than a classic multifamily building,” my student said, using a label to extract more information
  • b9307031218has quotedlast year
    Their system was easy to follow and seductive, with four basic tenets. One, separate the person—the emotion—from the problem; two, don’t get wrapped up in the other side’s position (what they’re asking for) but instead focus on their interests (why they’re asking for it) so that you can find what they really want; three, work cooperatively to generate win-win options; and, four, establish mutually agreed-upon standards for evaluating those possible solutions
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