James W. Williams

assertiveness means being honest with your own feelings, needs, ideas and wants, yet being mindful of other people’s needs and opinions at the same time.

lets the other person talk more about himself

The trick is to be an instrument of flow, and not an obstacle

Don’t steal all the spotlight.

It’s not all about You.

embarrassing the self, causing misunderstanding, and unintentionally hurting others.

Rate Your Fear

Fear isn’t too abstract to be assessed, especially on a personal level. Without too much thinking and drama on the backdrop, nobody knows you more than yourself. You can rate your fear based on how strong you feel it, and this is the first step to trying to control it if overcoming it seems impossible, or at least impossible at the moment.

Don’t be afraid to get some of the spotlight for yourself.

rocking your boat.

To be a better conversationalist, you should watch out for hand gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions, and learn to divulge their meanings.

The strongest indicator of a good conversationalist is his/her skills in communicating, not only based on how good or right he/she utilizes words to get the most desired responses from the people being talked to, but also by how he/she maintains the conversation smooth and going.