James W. Williams

assertiveness means being honest with your own feelings, needs, ideas and wants, yet being mindful of other people’s needs and opinions at the same time.

lets the other person talk more about himself

The trick is to be an instrument of flow, and not an obstacle

Don’t steal all the spotlight.

It’s not all about You.

embarrassing the self, causing misunderstanding, and unintentionally hurting others.

Rate Your Fear

Fear isn’t too abstract to be assessed, especially on a personal level. Without too much thinking and drama on the backdrop, nobody knows you more than yourself. You can rate your fear based on how strong you feel it, and this is the first step to trying to control it if overcoming it seems impossible, or at least impossible at the moment.

Don’t be afraid to get some of the spotlight for yourself.

rocking your boat.

To be a better conversationalist, you should watch out for hand gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions, and learn to divulge their meanings.

His secret? He lets the other person talk more about himself, and he makes more opportunities for that person to talk by directing the conversation toward a shared area of interest. He never acts like a doormat, no. The man is just so open-minded that other people’s interest spikes his own, and he asks questions to learn more and keep the conversation flowing.